Webinar on Women’s sexuality
By Christine Ranisavljev
The Women’s Federation for World Peace (WFWP) Canada hosted its third webinar in a series in conjunction with the Blessed Marriage Project an affiliate of the High Noon organization on Monday, December 5th, 2022, from 7:30 – 9 PM EST. There were 19 participants in attendance. The webinar was held with French Interpretation.
The presenter, Crescentia De Goede (Pastor of Clifton Family Church), developed a presentation on Sexuality for Women from God’s perspective for all women and men, whether married or single. Historically, sexuality has led to painful experiences due to misuse of the act. To redirect it into a special and beautiful experience, Crescentia felt called to prepare information for the Blessed Marriage Project to guide blessed couples.
“God wants to be a part of the sexual relationship. People think that God cannot be a part of it. It is meant to be the greatest experience of joy and pleasure.”
Crescentia says our bodies are holy because God created every part of our body. We are to honor God with our bodies. Our bodies are precious and meant to come together in union. The two aspects of God, feminine and masculine are coming together. The sexual organs are like a lock and key by God’s design. Through sexuality children are born. We can invite God to be present in that relationship.
There are twice as many nerve endings in the female sexual organs than in the male. By God’s design women are more capable of experiencing sexuality than men. God made it more complicated for women to experience their sexuality because he wanted men to grow. It is in the process of discovering their wives that men grow.
Women need time for the body to be ready for intercourse. On average, this takes about 15 min while for men it only takes 2 minutes. It is for this reason that men may want to skip over foreplay and get right to the act of intercourse. Our founder Reverend Moon says that women should ask their husbands to do foreplay longer for this reason. It will be more enjoyable when both the man and the woman are aroused. Foreplay also helps lubrication flow and makes intercourse more pleasurable.
For women sensuality is key. Tender and loving touch builds up sexual tension and arousal. Stretching out sensuality is very erotic. God wants to enjoy it. Take your time with it. It should be the longest part of the sexual encounter.
The biggest sexual organ is the brain. The hypothalamus regulates and distributes hormones. Women need mental stimulation and emotional connection before they feel sexually aroused. You can use your mind to influence your mood by thinking positive thoughts. This gives us dopamine, a happy hormone that makes it easier to be sexually aroused. It doesn’t hurt to remind your partner that meaningful conversation and non-sexual quality time will warm up your heart. Talk regularly.
It is frustrating for men when what worked well with their wife before does not work again. We go through cycles. Make an appointment with your wife to talk about it. Have safe conversations with one another so that no one gets hurt. If you are experiencing joy but not expressing it, your partner will not know. Our partners are not mind readers.
Can stress change your sexuality?
For women it really can. Adversity to the sexual relationship may be the sign. Mindfulness meditation and tension releasing exercises will help. Husbands relieve stress through sex. Women don’t. This is when living for the sake of others will help.
When you don’t feel like it and you offer yourself to your spouse it is the ultimate form of love. You can help to put yourself in the mood by thinking about the last time you were together. Start with the mind. Think of it as a gift. Don’t expect anything in return. Just the joy of seeing your partner receive it.
Pray to ask God how he sees you. Ask to be reminded how beautiful you are. If your shape changes you can buy a new wardrobe to make you feel sexy in your new shape. Put on something to allow you to feel more beautiful.
Complement your partner every day. Putting out positive energy will attract positivity.
Next WFWP Canada Webinar: Jan.30, 2023. Women of Faith Building Bridges of Trust and Love between cultures, races and religions.